It’s 9:28 p.m. on a Sunday night and I feel drained!
I’m more exhausted then if I had worked all day on projects. But I wasn’t working today. I wasn’t even doing any physical labor.
I was doing something much harder… I was hanging out with people all day!
Well 6 hours straight sure felt like all day.
My wife and I went to a birthday party for one of her nephews who was turning 5 years old. It was mostly her family but also a couple friends. People I know and actually like.
The first hour or two were fun. But then I started to feel tired.
It’s like this most times we hang out with people for a long time. My wife is a total extrovert so she thrives on it. She doesn’t want to leave.
And me, well I sound like a little kid who keeps saying, “Can we go home now?”
It’s not that I don’t like or enjoy people. I do. Just in small doses.
My wife’s ideal “Free Day” would consist of hanging out with people from the moment she woke up to the moment she went to bed.
That sounds like a nightmare to me.
My ideal day would consist of hours and hours of free time to read, write, think, walk and maybe play some chess. That’s my kind of day!
This of course causes friction with us. But after 8 years of marriage we’re starting to figure it out.
One thing I’ve learned is that I can’t make my wife an introvert any more than she can make me an extrovert.
So instead of trying to change each other we can respect each other’s differences and allow each other to do the things we need to do to “recharge.”
Practically speaking, this could mean we take two cars when we go to a gathering like we did today (something we didn’t do today because, well, we only have one car right now!).
So Lesson #1: Buy another car and drive separate.
Lesson #2: don’t forget Lesson #1.
There is no Lesson #3. 🙂
So apparently I have a new goal: buy another car. I’m thinking I’ll get a Jeep since we need a tow behind vehicle anyway for the RV.
I wish I had some “deeper” or more profound tips or lessons to share with all you introverts married to extroverts but my simple brain can only think of this one lesson (maybe it’s because I’m drained from being with people all day and have 0% creativity right now!).