For the longest time I didn’t consider myself a “very emotional person.”
I’m a pretty analytical guy. When I’m not working I enjoy reading, writing and playing chess. I’m a total introvert and I live in a world of ideas.
But I have to be honest, I’m very much an “emotional person.” I think we all are to some degree. I don’t care if you think you’re Data from Star Trek or Sherlock Holmes… the truth is we all feel things.
Yes, even us Type-A, driven entrepreneurs.
We may be good at compartmentalizing our lives but at some point the compartments start to flood faster than we can shut the door. And when that happens the whole ship starts to sinks.
The downside of pretending you’re not very emotional is that you don’t see the need to cultivate emotional intelligence. Your disdain for emotions breeds ignorance about heart matters.
It causes you to elevate the mind and reason to a place it was never meant to occupy while at the same time degrading the heart. You inadvertently strip away a part of you that was designed to help you live life to the fullest.
And then when people do express their emotions, especially those close to you, it makes you angry. You try, in vain, to reason with them and convince them their feelings aren’t important.
But this is not how we’re created. We’re complex beings and God made us spirit, soul and body. He gave you a mind and a heart and you need both.
It’s important to cultivate emotional intelligence. To be aware of your feelings and the feelings of others. To recognize that the mind is not all powerful. That without the heart it has no aim or purpose other than to be productive.
If we want to live the lives we were created to live then we must stop treating our hearts like second class citizens. We must invest in developing our hearts as much as we do our minds. When that happens life starts to make sense again.